I have guy friends who bluntly told me I'm very unapproachable in clubs and bars. In some way I'm shocked, but partially it is true. When visiting those places, I have only one mentality: to have a great time with friends. I'm not there to pick up guys, to meet new faces or to accumulate numbers; thus, I usually avoid unnecessary "talks" with random people. I do however give props to the ones that have mustered enough courage to approach a total stranger, especially those without a wingman. Nevertheless, why am I being this boring and anti-social? Because guys you meet during the nightlife hours, doesn't matter if he's sweet, charming, player, asshole, jerk, friendly, cute, weird, you name it, generally have one motive in mind. And definitely not to become your "friend".
Anyway, what are all these leading to? Guys playing their games: approach a girl, get the lady interested with their smoothness (if they know how to flirt correctly), ask for a number, probably lead them on with false hope, etc., You get the point. Games are nonetheless interesting and fun, but it gets old and tiring. What the society is lacking nowadays is pure honesty. All these labyrinth of confusion create useless tension and what do you gain from it towards the end of the day? Love and relationship isn't a game and it is even more pathetic when a guy defines love and relationship equal sex. He is then a moron who hasn't been mentally educated or emotionally cultured.
Ladies, please do yourself a favor. Stop lavishing a guy with gifts, cater to his every need, waste your precious time and thoughts when he has obviously made you into a piece of his game. Bottom line, even you give him your all, he won't change his mind. They don't think or act like females who warm up their feelings like a crock pot. Guys usually know if they are physically attracted and interested within around three seconds of spotting you. If you can't tell the difference between him being genuinely interested or just playing, ask a friend who is an outsider to study your interaction with him. Generally speaking, third parties always see the truth because of their impartialness. Don't be fooled by their smile and charm. If a guy is serious about you, he will make an effort to reveal his feeling and interest.
When you're seriously interested in a guy, you should blatantly send out accurate messages or hints and pray he's on the same boat. Even he's not, don't sweat and proudly move on because I repeat, guys usually don't change mind. Exception does exist when you try to create one and we will leave the how for another post. Overall, don't waste your effort on guys that aren't serious or not interested because those that are worth your time won't let you shed a sweat!
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