Follow your Heart

“Don’t make your life’s focus about having what you want to have, this is empty. Rather be who you want to be and do what you want to do, this is where substance lies” –Tim Ferris author of the 4 hour work week.

Sometimes people should follow their heart and not listen to their head. No one is society's puppet. Don't let people around you influence and manipulate your perception. Most importantly, stop trying to become someone you are not. Friends and families will always love and accept the real you. Be creative and follow your heart... you will genuinely be happier.

*Image from raspberrytart at flickr

Migratory Snow Birds

One of my favorite Chinese Mandarin songs of all time. Lyric is mellow and melancholic, which brings back good and bad memories. Nevertheless, beautifully written!

Migratory Snow Birds "雪候鳥"

Sang by Panda Xiong "熊天平"

Mandarin to English Translation by Belle/Me

Published in 1998

隨候鳥南飛 風一刀一刀地吹

(Follow the migratory birds to the south. The wind is blowing like non-stop knife cuts.)

妳刺痛我心扉 我為妳滴血

(You stabbed and hurt my heart. I'm bleeding for you.)

妳遺棄的世界 我等妳要回

(The world you abandoned. I'm waiting for you to take it back/want it back.)

我不想南飛 淚一滴一滴地墜

(I don't want to fly south. Tears fall drop after drop.)

我空虛的雙臂 妳讓我包圍

(You made me surround my empty embrace.)

我有過的一切 妳給的最美

(The all I had. You gave the best.)

我又回頭去飛 去追

(Again, I turn my head back to fly, to chase.)

任往事一幕一幕催我落淚

(Let the past, scene by scene, force me to tear/cry.)

我不信妳忘卻 我不要我單飛

(I don't believe you have forgotten. I don't want to fly alone.)

沒有妳逃到哪裡心都是死灰

(In your absence, everywhere I escape to, my heart is always in an abyss and dead.)

我又回頭去追 去醉

(Again, I turn my head back to chase, to intoxication.)

就算我追到最後只剩冰雪

(Even if I chased to the end there is only frigid snow left.)

天都為我傷悲 冷的愛快枯萎

(Even heaven feels my sadness/feels bad. Cold to the point my love starts to wilt.)

任漫天風雪覆蓋我的心碎

(Let all snowstorms cover my broken heart.)

Give me a Reason to Walk on Fire

When Plan A fails, resort to Plan B. How many times have we heard of that sentence? Enough to voice out "do you think I'm this dumb not to know?". Unfortunately, there are always obstinate souls willing to risk it all by downgrading themselves. If degrading yourself isn't getting you the right guy, it is time to modify your plan.

Why taking the risk and walk on fire when you always have a choice? For girls who wonder about always being categorized under easy, moody, airhead, gold-digger, etc., take a minute to ponder why. You whine, cry, throw tantrum and complain about others being unfair or simply blind. Stop being headstrong and open your eyes. Don't blame your mistakes and actions on others. Take a minute to reflect on yourself. What did you do to earn promiscuous names and to loose people's respect? As redundant as it is, actions always speak louder than words. Take the initiative to improve your image. For instance, if you're in the airhead category, start visiting libraries and bookstores to pick up knowledge. Sophisticated and cultured can take you far. Ignorant and foolish can rip you hard. You claim you don't care about what others see in you, the truth is if you're seriously nonchalant, you wouldn't show signs of bother from the beginning. Remember, you always have a choice to redeem your errors. Start by respecting yourself and involuntarily, society will follow your steps and grant you the respect you deserve.

At the end of the day, guys only divide girls into two unquestionable categories: for marriage or relationship and for warming his bed. Which category would you like to fall under? Choose carefully, wisely and discreetly. Moreover, stop daydreaming and imagining yourself being the lucky lottery winner in marrying a charming, handsome, rich guy. Nothing in this world is free. Like dogs don't choose cats as their mate, great guys don't choose lousy girls as their partner and vice-versa. Want to marry the best guy out there? Make yourself the best girl available. Beware, the latter doesn't consists solely of looks and body but also of intelligence, grace, and most importantly personality. Think of a product: the packaging and the inner content should be equally satisfying accompanied with the best quality. And always remember, with some diligence and perseverance, you always have a choice to become the IT girl.

*Article Written for Welations.Com*

Trying to Make you His Accessory

I have guy friends who bluntly told me I'm very unapproachable in clubs and bars. In some way I'm shocked, but partially it is true. When visiting those places, I have only one mentality: to have a great time with friends. I'm not there to pick up guys, to meet new faces or to accumulate numbers; thus, I usually avoid unnecessary "talks" with random people. I do however give props to the ones that have mustered enough courage to approach a total stranger, especially those without a wingman. Nevertheless, why am I being this boring and anti-social? Because guys you meet during the nightlife hours, doesn't matter if he's sweet, charming, player, asshole, jerk, friendly, cute, weird, you name it, generally have one motive in mind. And definitely not to become your "friend".

Anyway, what are all these leading to? Guys playing their games: approach a girl, get the lady interested with their smoothness (if they know how to flirt correctly), ask for a number, probably lead them on with false hope, etc., You get the point. Games are nonetheless interesting and fun, but it gets old and tiring. What the society is lacking nowadays is pure honesty. All these labyrinth of confusion create useless tension and what do you gain from it towards the end of the day? Love and relationship isn't a game and it is even more pathetic when a guy defines love and relationship equal sex. He is then a moron who hasn't been mentally educated or emotionally cultured.

Ladies, please do yourself a favor. Stop lavishing a guy with gifts, cater to his every need, waste your precious time and thoughts when he has obviously made you into a piece of his game. Bottom line, even you give him your all, he won't change his mind. They don't think or act like females who warm up their feelings like a crock pot. Guys usually know if they are physically attracted and interested within around three seconds of spotting you. If you can't tell the difference between him being genuinely interested or just playing, ask a friend who is an outsider to study your interaction with him. Generally speaking, third parties always see the truth because of their impartialness. Don't be fooled by their smile and charm. If a guy is serious about you, he will make an effort to reveal his feeling and interest.

When you're seriously interested in a guy, you should blatantly send out accurate messages or hints and pray he's on the same boat. Even he's not, don't sweat and proudly move on because I repeat, guys usually don't change mind. Exception does exist when you try to create one and we will leave the how for another post. Overall, don't waste your effort on guys that aren't serious or not interested because those that are worth your time won't let you shed a sweat!

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